that seems contradictory and deeply unfair to men, but as the previous caller was saying about the pbs program on which i appeared on which males were arguing about the jurisdiction. jurisdiction is here, and i get to make that decision. >> host: lydia foy e-mails you, and hopefully she's back from the soccer game to hear the answer to this. been a big fan of yours ever since i heard you speak in long island 15 years ago. i was pregnant with my now 15-year-old daughter which is why i miss your live show sunday with a 12 noon soccer game. i'll catch a repeat. i feel i have a book in me, but i feel i can't start to write. i think about it a lot, but i almost feel afraid to start. do you feel that way at any point in your career, and do you have any suggestions as to a process i can follow to get started or to make it feel less overwhelming? i'm currently employed full time, turning 52, married with two children, a 20-year-old and then the 15-year-old. >> guest: well, first of all, to make it feel less overwhelming, don't think of it as a book. .. >> guest: i always take it in wise-size b